When You’ve Experienced a Tragic Loss - FAQ
Am I supposed to feel
How am I supposed to feel? Irritable and indecisive? Detached?
so angry at her, why do I feel ashamed by this? Click any question
been feeling so withdrawn, so active , so…Am
I ok? For more information
What can I do to feel better?
A way to describe people’s reactions to grief and traumatic
loss is that they are normal responses to abnormal events. No one
is prepared for tragedy; therefore the impact we can feel may be
physical (sick, tired), emotional (guilt, numb) behavioral (act
out or shut down), cognitive (difficulty remembering things, disorganization),
spiritual (questioning faith). Be mindful of the intensity, duration
and impact of your feelings on your everyday functioning.
For my family
How can I help my family manage?
What should I tell people?
Why doesn’t anyone in my
family want to talk about it? Click any question
Are there rituals or
events that can be helpful? For more information
When do we move
The manner in which we grieve, want help and need help is very
personal. Often we can help others by taking care of ourselves.
When we as individuals are in position to explore the range of
feelings and emotions associated with loss we are also in good
position to help our families.
For my community
How do we prevent this from happening again?
Is there anything
I could have done?
Should I tell her the truth about how he died?
Click any question
Is there anything proactive I can do? For more
Are there people in the community that can help with
Whenever we are able to talk about things it can make those things
feel manageable. Tragic losses can affect communities as well as
individuals. There are many resources available (schools, clergy,
groups) that can help facilitate dialogue to raise awareness and
Who can I reach out to?
It may seem difficult to reach out at these times. Think about
those you trust – family, clergy, doctor, mental health provider – and
for additional local resources
Find out who.